You can call it domestic violence, emotional abuse, verbal abuse or physical abuse. By any name or any method, abuse is wrong. And not all abuse is physical, but all abuse is emotional. Just because he’s not hitting you doesn’t mean it’s not abuse. Abuse can be obvious or it can be subtle, insidious, even silent.
But there is hope.
If you are living in an relationship marred by abuse, I know that you keep hoping tomorrow will be different. I understand the kind of fear and pain you live with because I lived it.
Let me teach you what I have since learned about the abuse dynamic, so that you can identify the abuse when it happens and begin the process of breaking the cycle and reclaiming your life.
I can help you to…
Understand the abuser’s real objective: It’s not relationship, but control.
Identify the kinds of tactics he will use to keep you fearful, confused and isolated from sources of emotional support.
Recognize Magic Words, Buy-Offs and Hooks – the tools the abuser uses to draw you back into his circle when he knows he has crossed the line.
And there is much more.
“I didn’t realize what we were living with. I thought it was my fault, that I was a failure as a wife. I believed that if I could fulfill all of his expectations, I could earn my husband’s love.
“His behaviors became increasingly unpredictable and terrifying. Although my children and I finally escaped and have reclaimed our lives, it pains me to realize what we endured and the countless emotional scars we will always carry. If only I had known then what I know now, I would have acted earlier to end the abuse.”
Don’t do what I did. Don’t wait. Learn the truth about abuse so you can find the strength to break the cycle before it’s too late.
Let’s get started. Take this quick informal ‘Abuse Assessment’
Remember, an abuser will do anything to keep you, but nothing to take care of you.
*Statistically, the overwhelming majority of reported abusers are male; therefore, male nouns and pronouns are used for the sake of simplicity. It is understood that females are similarly capable of abuse, as well. The reader’s understanding is appreciated.