What About The Children?

“It is better to be from a broken home than to live in one.” I wish I knew the name of the pastor I heard on the radio who offered up that stunning statement. I’ll admit my surprise knowing it was a pastor who said it. I remember smiling to  myself and exclaiming aloud, “Thank … Continue reading What About The Children?

The Temptation to Defend Yourself to Friends and Children

“For You have been a defense for the helpless, a defense for the needy in his distress, a refuge from the storm, a shade from the heat; For the breath of the ruthless is like a rain storm against a wall.”  Isaiah 25:3 There are days when it feels as though the battle is never-ending, … Continue reading The Temptation to Defend Yourself to Friends and Children

Issues of Interest:

Common Traits of an Abusive Relationship Isolation: Another Weapon in the Abuser’s Arsenal What About the Children? Sleeping With An Abuser Liar, Liar Trump Cards: The Abuser’s Game-Changer Seven Long Years [parental alienation] Waiting at the Window [parental rejection] Misunderstood

Personal Coaching

For several years, Cindy has been providing private, fee-based personal coaching , and she is currently accepting new clients. Please review the information provided below before scheduling a session.  Then email Cindy here. Client Feedback: “I am in the process of exiting a physically and mentally abusive marriage of 16 years. I was introduced to … Continue reading Personal Coaching

Reformulating the Christian Marriage Counseling Model Where Abuse Is Involved

“Reformulating the Christian Marriage Counseling Model Where Abuse Is Involved” is an easy-to-read, insightful resource that takes an in-depth look at the common Christian counseling model, identifies its weaknesses where abuse is involved, and presents a new model based upon sound biblical truth and common sense.

The book provides vital insight into the foundational “God hates divorce” doctrine which fuels many counselors’ primary objective of saving the marriage at all costs.  What many counselors fail to recognize is that this doctrine and others (which I address) empower abusers and keep their victims in bondage, fearful of being abandoned by God.

It is hard to imagine that many victims have been shamed, shunned and even excommunicated from their churches for removing themselves and their children from toxic, ungodly homes.  Something is terribly wrong with this picture, and it’s time to address the manner in which Christian counselors and believers as a whole respond to abuse and its victims within the body of Christ.

This book is ideal for victims seeking direction as to what they may want to look for in a counselor and the counseling process.  It is also a valuable resource for pastors, church leaders and counselors and would similarly be suitable for faculty and students at Christian colleges and seminaries.

We must be willing to identify the wolves among us and rise in defense of those who are being victimized in their own homes.  In acknowledging the sanctity of marriage, the truth is that a marriage’s substance is of far more importance than its status.

“Reformulating the Christian Marriage Counseling Model Where Abuse Is Involved” is available as a paperback for $14.95 and as a Kindle book for $4.99.