“He who trusts in his own heart is a fool, but he who walks wisely will be
delivered.” Proverbs 28:26
It’s almost exactly 16 years since I left my abusive husband after 18 years of marriage, but I can still remember clearly some of the feelings that overshadowed that dark season. Having shared many experiences that I thought might be unique to me, I have been amazed at how many of my thought processes are far more common in the lives of other abuse victims than I ever imagined.
Continue reading An Abuse Victim’s Secret Fantasy
After separating from my abusive husband, I made it clear that I would not live with him unless and until his attitudes and behaviors changed dramatically. After a couple of weeks of listening to him whine and complain about my unrealistic expectations, he suddenly entered Alcoholics Anonymous and seemingly found the will to turn his life around.
His overall demeanor took on a hue that appeared consistent with heartfelt repentance and a drastic change of character. It seemed he had miraculously been awakened from his toxic stupor. The nasty man was all at once the happy-go-lucky guy who forthrightly apologized to me and our kids for his hostile behaviors and failings. Suddenly he wanted to play with our kids at the park and seemed more sensitive and respectful toward me. He spoke in positive, glowing terms and seemed wholly committed to the follow-through to save our marriage and our family. The man passionately assured me that our dark days were behind us. Continue reading “I’m Trying”: Setting the Stage for Failure
“The one who says, “I have come to know Him,” and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him…” I John 2:4
I had the pleasure of hearing Hal Lindsey speak recently on the subject of reconciliation. He defined the New Testament term for “reconciliation” as the restoration between two or more parties, which is only made possible when the barriers to relationship have been removed.
Mr. Lindsey’s discourse centered beautifully on the redemptive work of Jesus who, through His sacrifice, broke the bond of sin and judgment that separates us from God. It was Jesus who made reconciliation possible, yet it is conditioned upon our willingness to allow Him to remove the barriers that keep us apart and consent to His lordship, at which point the old things that hold us bound are put behind us, and we are made new and alive in genuine relationship with Him.
Continue reading The Truth About Reconciliation