After separating from my abusive husband, I made it clear that I would not live with him unless and until his attitudes and behaviors changed dramatically. After a couple of weeks of listening to him whine and complain about my unrealistic expectations, he suddenly entered Alcoholics Anonymous and seemingly found the will to turn his life around.
His overall demeanor took on a hue that appeared consistent with heartfelt repentance and a drastic change of character. It seemed he had miraculously been awakened from his toxic stupor. The nasty man was all at once the happy-go-lucky guy who forthrightly apologized to me and our kids for his hostile behaviors and failings. Suddenly he wanted to play with our kids at the park and seemed more sensitive and respectful toward me. He spoke in positive, glowing terms and seemed wholly committed to the follow-through to save our marriage and our family. The man passionately assured me that our dark days were behind us. Continue reading “I’m Trying”: Setting the Stage for Failure