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abuse, belief system, conflict, confusion, domestic violence, emotional abuse, faith, hostility, hypocrisy, marriage, perfectionism, recovery

The Sympathy Bond

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It is a strange thing to comprehend:  most of us as abuse victims actually feel sorry for the person abusing us.  Why is that?  How can it be that, after all he* has put us through, we choose to see this person who treats us contemptuously as a fragile, hapless creature worthy of our patience … Continue reading The Sympathy Bond →

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Trusting Your Instincts

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If you have followed me for any period of time or read some of my articles, you may know that I encourage those in abusive relationships to trust their instincts, to listen to what their hearts – and the Spirit of God – are saying to them.  Please forgive what may be redundant for some … Continue reading Trusting Your Instincts →

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Love Your Enemies?

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“You have heard it was said,‘love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” Matthew 5:43-44 This is a powerful verse that is often used to compel victims of abuse to remain with their abusers. The pretense is that no matter how we are … Continue reading Love Your Enemies? →