The Truth About Reconciliation

“The one who says, “I have come to know Him,” and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him…”  I John 2:4 I had the pleasure of hearing Hal Lindsey speak recently on the subject of reconciliation.  He defined the New Testament term for “reconciliation” as the restoration between … Continue reading The Truth About Reconciliation

The Trauma of Betrayal

“For it is not an enemy who reproaches me, then I could bear it; nor is it one who hates me who has exalted himself against me, then I could hide myself from him.  But it is you, a man my equal, my companion and my familiar friend…”  Psalm 55:12-13 Betrayal. I’m almost certain that … Continue reading The Trauma of Betrayal

Trump Cards: The Abuser’s Game-Changer

“Strange game.  The only winning move is not to play.”  WarGames You may not even know he holds them, but the odds are good that, if you are in an abusive relationship, you have had these thrown at you more than once. They are trump cards. Abusers almost always have a trump card or two … Continue reading Trump Cards: The Abuser’s Game-Changer

Checklist Blackmail

No list holds the power to change a person’s heart. It finally arrives – the heartbreaking yet liberating moment when you simply cannot live the lie for one more minute.   The loneliness, shame and exhaustion can no longer be rationalized or minimized.  There is nothing left to sort out or piece together or hope for, … Continue reading Checklist Blackmail