“So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church…” Ephesians 5:28-29
I recently received an e-mail from one of my contacts requesting feedback regarding intimacy with an abuser. I tend to shy away from such sensitive matters, but in light of the pertinence of her question, I am certain that others may similarly avoid discussing these things. I also know that it is in the darkness that fears and injuries fester, and there is an appropriate time to draw them into the light.
So, the question is this: How can we expect to feel and respond toward our abuser sexually? This is a multi-faceted question, and I have decided to offer my two cents based on three distinct but inseparable factors: the draw, the danger, and the dance. Continue reading Sleeping With An Abuser
My eldest daughter, Charla, recently wrote a paper for her college psychology class about depression and decided to share it with me. The subject of her paper was her younger brother, Brett, and what he suffered as a young boy in an abusive home. (You can read Charla’s account of her class presentation