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Personal Coaching

For several years, Cindy has been providing private, fee-based personal coaching , and she is currently accepting new clients. Please review the information provided below before scheduling a session.  Then email Cindy here. Client Feedback: “I am in the process of exiting a physically and mentally abusive marriage of 16 years. I was introduced to … Continue reading Personal Coaching →

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Wisdom in the Counsel of Many?

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“Without consultation, plans are frustrated, but with many counselors they succeed.”  Proverbs 15:22 We know there is wisdom in the counsel of many.  Even in the midst of overwhelming heartache and confusion, we may have some vague idea of what we want or need to do, but out of a sincere desire to do the right … Continue reading Wisdom in the Counsel of Many? →

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Trusting Your Instincts

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If you have followed me for any period of time or read some of my articles, you may know that I encourage those in abusive relationships to trust their instincts, to listen to what their hearts – and the Spirit of God – are saying to them.  Please forgive what may be redundant for some … Continue reading Trusting Your Instincts →

abuse, belief system, Christianity, confusion, controlling abuse, disrespect, domestic violence, emotional abuse, fear, hostility, loneliness, manipulation, marriage, neglect, unsafe home

Where’s My Gumball?

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Consider the gumball machine; it’s a relational analogy that works. Practically speaking, it should be understood that in any relationship there is a give-and-take dynamic.  It should not be a matter of I’m-gonna-get-what-I’ve-got-coming-to-me sort of attitude, but rather a natural, mutual desire to meet the needs of the one we say we care most about. … Continue reading Where’s My Gumball? →

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Identifying Financial Abusers and Their Tactics

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Early in our marriage, my husband and I worked cooperatively on budgeting and saving.  We came to an understanding that neither of us would make any major purchases until we discussed them and agreed upon them.  But as the years passed, something shifted – and not in a good way. When balancing our checkbook virtually … Continue reading Identifying Financial Abusers and Their Tactics →