Are you in a relationship characterized by a perpetual cycle of fear and confusion?  Do you lie awake at night while the cruel things he has said to you echo in your mind, wondering if there is any truth to them? Do you feel as though you are always walking on eggshells, trying to avoid his wrath?  Are you desperate to understand why he is so mean to you?  Dear friend, it may be that terror you are living in is not the result of some terrible misunderstanding, nor is it because you have done anything wrong.   It is entirely possible that you are trying to survive in an abusive relationship.   

You need to know that not all abuse is physical, but all abuse is emotional.  Just because he’s not hitting you doesn’t mean it’s not abuse.  Abuse can be obvious or it can be subtle, insidious, even silent.

But there is hope.

If you are living in an relationship marred by abuse, I know that you keep hoping tomorrow will be different. I understand the kind of fear and pain you live with because I lived it too. 

Let me teach you what I have come to understand about the abuse dynamic, so that you can identify the abuse when it happens and begin the process of breaking the cycle and reclaiming your life.

I can help you to…

  • Understand the abuser’s real priority:  It’s not relationship, it’s control.
  • Identify the various tactics he will use to keep you fearful, confused and isolated from sources of emotional support.
  • Begin the process of reclaiming your value and your life.

Don’t wait.  Learn the truth about abuse so you can become stronger and begin the work of breaking the cycle.

Let’s get started.  Take this quick, informal ‘Abuse Assessment’ and  we can take it from there.

Cindy Burrell

Remember, an abuser will do anything to keep you, but nothing to take care of you.

*Statistically, the overwhelming majority of reported abusers are male; therefore, male nouns and pronouns are used for the sake of simplicity. It is understood that females are similarly capable of abuse, as well. The reader’s understanding is appreciated.


Help For Victims of Verbal and Emotional Abuse