Dear friend, I have no idea how long you might listen before you decide to shut me out. But what I have to say is important, and I hope you will give me just a few precious minutes to share what is on my heart. What I need to say may change how you see … Continue reading Give Me Five Minutes (Things I Would Like to Say To An Abuse Victim)
On the Reformed Baptist Fellowship blog, Pastor D. Scott Meadows recently offered a document he suggested should serve as a Christian Wife’s Marriage Catechism. Supposedly directed at believing women who are married to potentially ungodly unbelievers, let’s just say that upon reading it, I was enraged. I prefer to think of the piece as An Abuser’s … Continue reading Life in a Toxic Home
Those who have never experienced abuse tend to be bewildered by the victim’s mindset. It does seem utterly ridiculous that anyone subject to physical or emotional harm would deliberately choose to remain one more minute with the jerk who is inflicting it. The outsider will reason, “Well, if she is so determined to stay, the situation … Continue reading Why The Abuse Victim Doesn’t Leave (In Six Words)
My eldest daughter, Charla, recently wrote a paper for her college psychology class about depression and decided to share it with me. The subject of her paper was her younger brother, Brett, and what he suffered as a young boy in an abusive home. (You can read Charla’s account of her class presentation here.) I … Continue reading The Church That Kept Me There
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” Anais Nin In my years in this ministry, I have found that there are some people who seem to be reaching out for help and insight and healing. But, after many … Continue reading The Unreachable